Archive for March, 2007
March 30, 2007 at 3:05 am
· Filed under Depression, Etiquette, Family, Friends, Realtionships, Self Defense, Spirit, Stress, abrasive, abuse, acne, advice, behavior, bothering, disrespect, doctors, geeks, girlfriends, growing up, health, help, privacy, questions, rude, self image, social, teens
Dea Little Miss,
I am in my early 20’s and have been suffering from severe acne for the past 3 years. I am being treated by a dermatologist now and I know that even with treatment it is going to take some time for this to clear up or to at least go down a little. The problem I am having now, besides expected self esteem issues, is people who feel they need to give me advice or “tips” on how to treat my acne. Every one of my extended family, friends of my parents, people at church, even some of my friends have offered me advice. I have heard everything from “don’t kiss girls”, to “rub a babies freshly peed in diaper on your face”. Having this acne is bad enough, how do I get people to understand that their “good intentions” just make it worse?
Signed Pizza Face
Dear Mr. Handsome,
I’m sorry to hear about your situation. I have battled acne myself since I was 9 and have realized that it will always be an issue for me, so I feel your pain. Many people have sudden cases of severe acne and after treatment it goes away, so keep up the faith. As for all those “good intendors”, Read the rest of this entry »
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March 29, 2007 at 3:03 am
· Filed under Child Rearing, Divorce, Etiquette, Family, Hopes and Dreams, Love, Marriage, Parents, Peace, Realtionships, advice, arguments, behavior, boys, cats, cleaning, fathers, fighting, growing up, health, help, husband, manipulation, mothers
I am all out of questions to answer, and I’m too tired tonight to make one up. I thought, instead, that it might be fun to get you all involved here, and see what you have to say about things. So, today I am going to ask YOU the question and you all need to answer it in the “comment” box. Here goes:
Dear Readers,
I am a healthy, active mother of four bright and lively children. I have been married to my wonderful husband for almost 10 years. While my husband and I have always supported each other and we hardly ever disagree, there is one point on which we cannot see eye to eye. I believe that part of being a child is having pets. I always had at least one pet, sometimes 4 or more, while I was growing up and I want my children to have the same experiences and responsibilities that I had. My husband LOVES animals and will play with them and snuggle them, but he refuses to own any pets. I have been tempted to just go out and get one but I know without a doubt that it would cause some big problems in our marriage if I did that. Is there any way that I can get my husband to buy me and our children a pet?
Signed, Pet Envy
Good Morning,
Ok, I had some rest and I’m feeling better. I’ve thought about this problem of mine and I think I have some advice for myself. Don’t think I don’t want to hear your answers, though. Leave your advice for me in the comment box and help me out with this one.
Dear Pet Envy,
It sounds like you are a reasonable, responsible, caring person. While these are all good traits to posses, I think they are the very things that are keeping you from getting a pet. I think that every time you mention getting a pet to your husband he manages to Read the rest of this entry »
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March 28, 2007 at 8:20 am
· Filed under Babies, Disconnected, Divorce, Etiquette, Family, Love, Marriage, Peace, Promises, Realtionships, Spirit, Stress, advice, allergies, arguments, behavior, bothering, cats, doctors, fighting, health, help, husband, manipulation, romance
Dear Little Miss,
My wonderful husband and I have been blissfully married for almost 2 years. This last fall we decided to add two cute little cats to our little family (no children at this moment). My husband is slightly allergic to cats. We knew this before we took the cats, but he said he could get allergy shots and that it wouldn’t be a problem. All winter he has been sniffing and moaning and acting like he is going to die any minute. It is his allergies and I know it is because of the cats. I’ve asked him if he has gotten an allergy shot yet and he just says, “No” and, “Don’t worry about it, I’ll be fine”. I don’t like to complain when I’m sick and I try not to inconvenience others when I feel bad, so it is driving me crazy that he is acting this way. I have grown attached to our cats and don’t want to get rid of them, and I don’t think I should have to seeing as how he wants them too. What should I do?
Signed ~ Caring For Two Cats and a Baby
Dear Two Cats and a Baby,
Our sweet men, we love ‘em so. Let us take a moment to feel bad for your poor man. Your husband is literally stuck between a sniffle and sharp place. His allergies are making him miserable and we all know that sniffles can turn any hulk of a man into a helpless little baby. The only way to get rid of the male-debilitating sniffles here is to get a shot from a doctor and we also know that men hate, with a capital H-A-T-E, going to the doctor. So I don’t think your hubby is trying to be annoying, or trying to get rid of the cats either, he is just feeling miserable and doesn’t like his other option. Here are the only options I can give you that won’t hurt your marriage Read the rest of this entry »
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March 27, 2007 at 3:12 am
· Filed under Babies, Baby Blues, Child Rearing, Depression, Disconnected, Divorce, Family, Goals, Hopes and Dreams, Love, Marriage, Promises, Realtionships, Stress, Time, advice, behavior, bothering, dating, husband, romance, self image
Dear Little Miss,
My husband is in his last term of graduate school and is very busy with work, school, and family. Money is tight because we are living off students loans. We have two young daughters and don’t have a lot of time for us. Any advice on inexpensive ways to keep that “spark” alive. Thanks a million.
Love,
Tired but Happy!
Dear Tired But Happy,
I know exactly where you are coming from. When my husband was in grad school he would leave at 7am and get home at 8pm. There was just enough time for dinner, 15 minutes playing with the kids and putting them to bed, then he would kiss me good night and promptly fall asleep. You are exactly right that you need to keep the “spark” alive. My husband and I found a solution by starting what we call Read the rest of this entry »
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March 26, 2007 at 3:56 am
· Filed under Goals, Spirit, Time, advice, audio books, audiobooks, entertainment, health, help, marathons, reading, running, self image
Dear Little Miss,
I am training for a marathon and need your help. I am bored stiff while running for such LONG periods of time! On the advice of other runners, I decided to listen to audio books while running to help pass the time, but I do not know which audio books to buy! Can you recommend any? I need something interesting and entertaining, but not in a cheap “blockbuster movie” way. I need a writer whose gift for narrative will keep my mind off of my aching calves! Do you have any titles to recommend???
Dear Running Reader,
Note to self: don’t sit down to answer questions like this while eating a big bowl of ice cream and wearing fuzzy slippers. No, no, no, I’m not really thinking that. Good for you, and keep up the awesome work. I love audio books because they keep my kids quiet on long road trips, but I’m afraid I haven’t listened to very many audio books that werent’ written for children. I could easily give you a list of books that I love, but I’m afraid that it wouldn’t really help you either. Audio books float somewhere between Read the rest of this entry »
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March 23, 2007 at 7:01 am
· Filed under "why", Babies, Child Rearing, Depression, Disconnected, Divorce, Family, Holidays, Hopes and Dreams, Love, Marriage, Numb, Parents, Promises, Realtionships, Siblings, Spirit, advice, arguments, behavior, dating, death, disrespect, fathers, fighting, girlfriends, grieving, growing up, help, husband, in a rut, loss, manipulation, mothers, paranoid, privacy, social
Dear Little Miss,
I am one of five children in a family that has always been very close and very stable. We are all grown up now, with families of our own, but we have always stayed very much in touch and get together with each other quite often. We were blessed with great parents who have loved us and supported us in everything. This may all sound too good to be true, but that is how it was. Last year my mother passed away from a quick diagnosis of cancer. We only had 3 months warning before she died. Our family is still close but we are having a lot of problems with our father. He seems to be avoiding us now. Our parents used to come to every event in our children’s lives, birthdays, school plays, baptisms, etc. Our father won’t come to any of these now. I tried to confront him and tell him that his children need him to stand up and be the good father he used to be and he became very angry with me and told me to leave him alone. When mom died, we really needed him to be there for us, and he wasn’t. I used to think he was just having a hard time grieving for my mother but now he is dating any woman he can find, and now I don’t know what to think. I don’t know what to think about this situation. I want my children to know and love their grandpa, but I’m having a hard time even liking him right now. I feel he really dropped the ball after mom died and that he wasn’t there when we needed him. Little Miss, please tell me what to do.
Signed, I Need My Daddy
Dear Need My Daddy,I’m going to make an assumption here, and hope that I am not wrong. I’m guessing that you had an amazing mother. I’d even bet that if you got a phone call from your parents, it was from her. That if your children got a birthday card, it was in her handwriting. I bet that when you were invited to their house that she baked the cookies and prepared whatever food you ate. You have a wonderful father because he Read the rest of this entry »
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March 22, 2007 at 3:31 am
· Filed under Babies, Child Rearing, Parents, Potty Training, advice, boys, growing up, health, help, internet, mothers
*** Here is another potty training one. I think potty training is one of the toughtest parts of raising kids (definitely the grossest!). If you want to see something different, then start sending in those questions (hint, hint)***
Dear Little Miss,
At some point I need to potty train my little boy who is now two. Is it best to teach them to use the bathroom standing up or sitting down? For obvious reasons, I don’t want to Google this to find some answers.
Dear Planning Ahead,
I don’t blame you for not Googling this one. I’ve had too many innocent searches go very bad. I’ve learned never to ”search” the internet when my kids are watching, for that very reason. As for your question, it really depends on a few things. For starters, are you training him on the regular toilet, or on a potty chair? It can be really tricky for a little guy to aim into something as low as Read the rest of this entry »
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March 21, 2007 at 3:55 am
· Filed under Babies, Child Rearing, Etiquette, Goals, Parents, Potty Training, advice, behavior, boys, brothers, cleaning, growing up, health, mothers
Dear Little Miss,
I have three sons, ages 7, 5, and 3. They are quite a handful, as I’m sure anyone can imagine, but I love them all. The problem I am having, and have been having for a long time, is the bathroom. Not only is the seat being left up all the time but it is always such a nasty mess. I’m embarassed when company comes over and I always pray that they will not need to use the bathroom. I try to keep it clean but it seems like an impossible task. How can I teach these guys to clean up after themselves (I’ve tried that but they seem to always make more of a mess so I stopped). Please help me keep my bathroom clean!
Dear Seatie Sweetie,
I have two little guys of my own that are consistently leaving me bathroom suprises. I even came upon a little yellow puddle in the bathroom waste basket one day. Upon questioning my youngest guy, he shrugged his shoulders and responded, Read the rest of this entry »
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March 20, 2007 at 3:32 am
· Filed under Diet, Family, Love, Marriage, Stress, Time, abuse, advice, arguments, doctors, health, help, husband, manipulation, paranoid, privacy
Dear Little Miss,
My husband is underweight and proud of it! How best should I encourage him to at least get a yearly checkup from a doctor?
Dear Worried Wife,
Getting husbands to get a check up at the doctor’s is the only thing harder than getting them to go to the dentist. While I would like to say it is because they are such babies I really can’t blame them for not wanting to be poked and prodded (and possibly without any clothes on at the time, either). Women really have no choice, we have to see doctors because the female body has a lot goin’ on with it. Men, however, tend to get away with being pretty darn healthy most of the time (except when they have a cold and act like they are dying). The problem is Read the rest of this entry »
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March 19, 2007 at 6:24 am
· Filed under Addiction, Depression, Diet, Dieting, Disconnected, Goals, Hopes and Dreams, Numb, Spirit, Stress, abuse, advice, behavior, dinner, food, health, help, in a rut, manipulation, picky eaters, self image, women
Dear Little Miss,
I have been on this diet for 3 months and have lost quite a bit of weight. I have hit a rut I am finding myself sneaking food and then feeling like a pig afterwords and hating myself. Sometimes I cry myself to sleep. My question is, how can I get back to business? I have another 30 lbs to go and I have 4 months to loose it before this wedding I am in. I need all the advice I can get.
Dear Sneaking and Crying,
You should congratulate yourself on the weight you have already lost! Now, you have hit a “rut”, plateau, are slowing down, have lost that first fire of determination, right? Well, don’t beat yourself up about it, it happens to EVERYONE when trying to create a new lifestyle of eating. When this happens you need to pretend you are starting all over again. Try something new, or reread whatever book or program it was that had you on fire to begin with. Re-stoke that dying fire of determination and personal excitement. Now, let’s talk about the sneaking food and the crying yourself to sleep business. First off, you Read the rest of this entry »
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